Last year I had a conversation with my therapist about the difference in being assertive and aggressive. We as Black women often get the bill for the latter. We’re often looked at as aggressive due to the color of our skin rather than how we present ourselves. We’re often looked at as rough, rugged, loud, or abrasive instead of soft women, who desire vulnerability and are worthy of love.
When fighting against stereotypes placed on us; it can become difficult to simply be yourself.
You may be afraid to speak up when appropriate due to how you may appear. If perceived incorrectly by the wrong person; you may fear being alone or being misunderstood further, but we have to get past that. We have to grow past the point of how we are perceived by others to be our genuine selves.
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