Similar to our #52verses52weeks post this week, we are continuing the theme of drifting. Drifting away from your spouse can be easy if you let it happen. When we are not focused on their wants, needs and/or love language… we can slowly drift away from the relationship. Here are some things that we should check that we may do to cause a D.R.I.F.T. in our marriage:
Disappointment from unrealistic expectations– If we are expecting our spouse to do things that are unrealistic, we are not only putting pressure on them, but ultimately could be putting more faith in them than in God. This could truly cause you to drift from them, as well as God eventually.
Resentful– If something has happened in the past and your spouse has apologized… you need to let it go. You can’t keep holding on to old hurt. If you begin to resent them, then you are telling your heart to drift from the marriage.
Isolate– If you are always doing things away from your spouse, your telling yourself that you don’t need your spouse. Learn to include them in all the things that you do.
Fight– If you have an issue with pride and want to be a “right fighter,” then that could not only lead you to rift away from them, but possibly cause them to as well.
Toneless– If you are out with your spouse or family or receive a gift or compliment from them and you show no tone or emotion, it could become awkward and a challenge to truly enjoy each other’s company. This could make your spouse feel as though you don’t enjoy being with them. Remember to show enthusiasm with all your encounters with them.
These are just a few key ways that you could (or spouse can) drift away from the marriage. Have a Mirror Moment and see if you do any of these things and try to work on them with your spouse and through prayer. Focus on coming together and not drifting away. Spread The Soup!
