I just finished reading an awesome book from Cornelius Lindsey called, “Decoding The Silent Man’s Language: What Men Are Saying When They Are Not Saying Anything.” In it, Lindsey shares key elements as to how women can foster an environment that makes men feel comfortable opening up.
He offers advice for women when they have done everything they know to create that environment, and the man still does not open up. Finally, he shares stories that provide great insight to the vulnerabilities and insecurities of men that they often attempt to hide from women. I’ve taken 5 key things from the book to share with readers and encourage them to read the book for themselves.
Be Intentional about Focusing on the Positives that Your Man Does
Often when we women are bothered by the behavior of our man, we focus on that poor behavior until it changes, and completely lose sight of the good things that made us interested in our man in the first place. Lindsey shares a story of a man who grew silent with his wife after hearing constantly about what he did wrong. He felt as though he had lost the glimmer of respect and appreciation from his wife. He felt as though he could only do wrong in her eyes, and he completely shut down.
Often when we women are bothered by the behavior of our man, we focus on that poor behavior until it changes, and completely lose sight of the good things that made us interested in our man in the first place. Lindsey shares a story of a man who grew silent with his wife after hearing constantly about what he did wrong. He felt as though he had lost the glimmer of respect and appreciation from his wife. He felt as though he could only do wrong in her eyes, and he completely shut down.
